Day 11: Respecting His Appetite
My husband loves to eat. I'd venture to guess that a high percentage of men do too. I'm not saying I don't -- I LOVE to eat, but I have to remind myself that Jordan needs more food than I do. He is a grown man who needs to eat more than a small salad for lunch or a bowl of noodles for dinner. When we got married I had to learn that I can't just go on fixing what I've always fixed for myself!
This is an ongoing process because I'm not a great cook. I have SO MUCH to learn when it comes to cooking. Thankfully, Jordan helps me frequently and understands when something I make is a flop. :) But I can respect him by wanting to make what he would like to eat. For instance, I hate oatmeal raisin cookies. I think they're just cruel, because the raisins can look like chocolate chips and then they're not and it's awful. But he loves them. So I try to make those for him every once in a while.
I can pay attention to what meals he likes more than others and ask his opinions. I can also try to include nutritious choices so he can feel better, stay healthy, and have energy. This isn't easy when we both love meat and pasta so much!
It's awesome being able to ask my mom and mother-in-law for help when it comes to cooking. They are experts compared to me! I call my mom frequently with cooking questions. This weekend I was even able to go to my in-laws' house for a "cooking camp". My mother-in-law Kim prepared a whole weekend of cooking lessons for me, my sister-in-law, her best friend, and my brother-in-law's girlfriend. It was so great! I asked her back in the spring if we could do this, and she went above and beyond in response. She taught me how to perform basic techniques more efficiently and how to make some meals in a more healthful way that Jordan still enjoys. The boys were there to eat all of our "lessons" and they LOVED it. I even made my first pie ever -- apple pie! It was such an encouraging time of learning and we were able to have some amazing discussions about being a godly woman and serving through grace.
Learning what Jordan loves to eat and serving him in that way is how I can respect his appetite. That doesn't mean I have to have a four course meal made from scratch ready and waiting for him every day -- it just means that I keep learning and growing in this skill. And that's through God's grace, because I have and will make MANY mistakes when it comes to cooking! And yes, we still get a five dollar Little Caesar's pizza regularly. Haha.
Me serving Jordan my first apple pie. :)