Sunday, October 6, 2013

Respecting my Husband: His Friends

I'm doing a 31 day series about Respecting my Husband! To read about why I should respect him and go to a list of all 31 days, please visit my 31 Days of Respecting my Husband post.

Day 6: Respecting His Friends

Girls seem to get a bad rap for hating on their man's friends. Like the moment he gets married he is dragged away from his friends and his wife owns him and keeps him locked up never to be seen again. We'll discuss respecting his time away from me on another day, but let's just focus on his relationship with his friends for today. :)

I think sometimes that stereotype can be somewhat accurate depending on the situation, but also a lot of the time the guy just WANTS to be settled and ends up not hanging out with his friends as much. I get that. (The friends don't usually get that from what I've observed.) 

But, his friends are his friends for a reason. Some of them he has been friends with for as long as he can remember. They're a part of him! I want him to be able to talk with them, to help them out, spend quality guy time, and instead of always referring back to the good ol' days, continue to HAVE the good ol' days right now. 

I had a tough time at first when it came to Jordan's friends. We started hanging out, dating, and got engaged relatively quickly. (See love story here.) Being Jordan's first girlfriend, his friends were rather surprised (understandably). They are a great group and have been together since they were very young, so it was kinda weird and VERY intimidating entering into that mix outta nowhere. I am honestly JUST now starting to become comfortable around all of his friends. Lest you think it's their fault, I assure you I am not the easiest person to get to know. Opening up around new people is not my specialty. 

But did that mean I shouldn't respect them? No way. Jordan loves them, and he loved them way before he loved me (it's different, obviously, but still). If they're important to him, they're important to me. I shouldn't talk badly about them or try to take control over what they do or make them my rivals. I want him to have those friendships and I want to get to know them too. And show them respect as well.

See you tomorrow for Day 7 - Respecting my Husband: His Desire for Me (Sex!)



  1. This series has already been such a blessing. Thank you for pouring out what God has been teaching you about respecting your husband; it has been an encouragement and a help in my marriage already! Last night my pastor shared a way that he and his wife encourage one another in their morning prayer time. They set aside 4 minutes, and each of them prays for 2 minutes: 1 minute praying for things they need help and prayer for in serving their spouse, and 1 minute thanking God for specific traits and qualities in their spouse. I thought I would share - what a wonderful way to show respect to our husbands! I hope you have a great week, Ashley. Thanks again!

    1. That's an excellent idea! Thank you so much for sharing!



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