Day 6: Respecting His Friends
Girls seem to get a bad rap for hating on their man's friends. Like the moment he gets married he is dragged away from his friends and his wife owns him and keeps him locked up never to be seen again. We'll discuss respecting his time away from me on another day, but let's just focus on his relationship with his friends for today. :)
I think sometimes that stereotype can be somewhat accurate depending on the situation, but also a lot of the time the guy just WANTS to be settled and ends up not hanging out with his friends as much. I get that. (The friends don't usually get that from what I've observed.)
But, his friends are his friends for a reason. Some of them he has been friends with for as long as he can remember. They're a part of him! I want him to be able to talk with them, to help them out, spend quality guy time, and instead of always referring back to the good ol' days, continue to HAVE the good ol' days right now.
I had a tough time at first when it came to Jordan's friends. We started hanging out, dating, and got engaged relatively quickly. (See love story here.) Being Jordan's first girlfriend, his friends were rather surprised (understandably). They are a great group and have been together since they were very young, so it was kinda weird and VERY intimidating entering into that mix outta nowhere. I am honestly JUST now starting to become comfortable around all of his friends. Lest you think it's their fault, I assure you I am not the easiest person to get to know. Opening up around new people is not my specialty.
But did that mean I shouldn't respect them? No way. Jordan loves them, and he loved them way before he loved me (it's different, obviously, but still). If they're important to him, they're important to me. I shouldn't talk badly about them or try to take control over what they do or make them my rivals. I want him to have those friendships and I want to get to know them too. And show them respect as well.
See you tomorrow for Day 7 - Respecting my Husband: His Desire for Me (Sex!)