Monday, October 14, 2013

Respecting my Husband: His Spiritual Leadership

I'm doing a 31 day series about Respecting my Husband! To read about why I should respect him and go to a list of all 31 days, please visit my 31 Days of Respecting my Husband post.

Day 10: Respecting His Spiritual Leadership

I could do a whole series or write a book on this topic alone (kinda like the sex one). But I'll try to keep it short. :) 

My husband is my leader. (Eph. 5:22-24). This includes spiritual leadership. I think this can be hard for wives because we tend to have the desire to control things. It's one of those things that God is constantly teaching us about. But to respect Jordan's leadership I need to let him take the reigns

One huge way to do this is to just simply encourage him in it. Instead of forcing him to do something or nagging him about it, I can make statements like, "I love it when you pray with me. Hearing you pray for us really gives me strength. I'd love if we could do it more!"

Another way is to ask him questions about the Bible or what I'm currently studying. I always have a ton of questions, and yes I can look up commentaries or dig deeper into my study Bible, but I really love asking Jordan my questions. He usually points me in a new direction or brings out something I would have never noticed myself. Just the experience of talking about God's Word and spiritual things regularly is a great way to respect him as a spiritual leader. It lets him know that I value his opinion and knowledge and want to learn from him. We can always learn from each other.

One thing I need to be asking him is how I can help him spiritually. I admit that I definitely don't do a good job with this; I ask him how I can pray for him but most of the time I don't go deeper than that. I am his helpmate (Gen. 2:18), which means I am to be his helper in everything. He might need me to encourage him to read his Bible, or help him set apart time to start a new Bible study, or pray with him. 

Of course, it is always a wonderful idea to pray for my husband! Even if he hasn't given me something specific to pray about, I can be praying for all kinds of things for him. One book that has helped me pray for him since we first got married is The Power of a Praying Wife Devotional by Stormie Omartian. It's not to be used as my only time of prayer for Jordan, but the different topics get my mind going with how to pray for him. 

Like I said, I could go on and on but I'll stop there for now in this series. I'm sure I'll come back to this topic later on the blog. :) 



  1. I agree that it's so important to respect the husband's spiritual leadership. I think part of that is being enthusiastic! My Hunky Husband decided that we should spend time in the Word using a devotional he loves... and I don't, really. Instead of whining about it (or rolling my eyes- I really wanted to roll my eyes!), I responded enthusiastically- and I'm actually starting to like that devotional.

    My husband isn't really one for expressing himself through words, so a big part of understanding his spiritual walk is figuring out how he connects with God. For him, he feels God most clearly in nature, so we make it a priority to spend time in beautiful places.

    Great post- so true!!

  2. So very important. Good suggestions!



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