Day 4: Respecting His Work
Work is extremely important to a man. I'm not saying it's not important to women, but like I've said before I'm focusing on my husband right now. :)
It is in his nature to want to provide for me and for our family. It's a huge responsibility! One that he takes very seriously. Therefore, it's imperative that I respect that desire to work and provide.
Jordan is an engineer. A math guy. Most of his job pertains to cell phone tower analysis. Do I have any idea what he's talking about when he tells me specifics about work? Nope. Well...I feel like I kinda do now that we've been together for a few years. I can tell you every kind of cell phone tower if you were to drive down the road with me. (There aren't that many, haha.) But still...I'm an English girl. (How cliche, I know.)
So honestly, it's hard for me to follow sometimes when he's talking about work. But I'm so proud of him in his work and want to encourage him. To be able to build him up, I have to listen to him and ask him questions about what's going on at work. Yes, this goes back to respecting his words. For a while when we first got married, I didn't ask Jordan about work for a few days. I thought he would just tell me. But he ended up asking me why I hadn't been interested in his work. Ever since then I've tried to make a point to ask him about what's going on at work - and not just a "How was your day?" but ask him about specific situations and problems. Even if I'm not interested, I become interested from hearing more and more about it.
Sometimes when Jordan gets home he doesn't want to talk about work immediately. Other times he does. I just have to read the situation and be there for him if he wants to talk and help him relax if he doesn't.
Respecting his work also means that I encourage him in his job and not put him down. Whether he's at the bottom of the totem pole or sitting on the top, I need to support him regardless. I can also encourage him to work for the glory of the Lord, talking about how he can witness to others or stand firm in what God's Word says through difficult issues. It can be really tough! I need to be that helpmate for him to love him and support him even when no one else does. Easier said than done, of course, but possible through God's grace!
And if Jordan didn't have a job? I would still need to be encouraging and supportive. Helping him in any way I can and loving him all the while. Giving him the utmost respect whether I think (or the world thinks) he deserves it or not. I vowed to be that helper for him through thick and thin!
See you tomorrow for Day 5 - Respecting my Husband: His Family.