Friday, October 4, 2013

Respecting my Husband: His Work

I'm doing a 31 day series about Respecting my Husband! To read about why I should respect him and go to a list of all 31 days, please visit my 31 Days of Respecting my Husband post.


Day 4: Respecting His Work

Work is extremely important to a man. I'm not saying it's not important to women, but like I've said before I'm focusing on my husband right now. :)

It is in his nature to want to provide for me and for our family. It's a huge responsibility! One that he takes very seriously. Therefore, it's imperative that I respect that desire to work and provide. 

Jordan is an engineer. A math guy. Most of his job pertains to cell phone tower analysis. Do I have any idea what he's talking about when he tells me specifics about work? Nope. Well...I feel like I kinda do now that we've been together for a few years. I can tell you every kind of cell phone tower if you were to drive down the road with me. (There aren't that many, haha.) But still...I'm an English girl. (How cliche, I know.)

So honestly, it's hard for me to follow sometimes when he's talking about work. But I'm so proud of him in his work and want to encourage him. To be able to build him up, I have to listen to him and ask him questions about what's going on at work. Yes, this goes back to respecting his words. For a while when we first got married, I didn't ask Jordan about work for a few days. I thought he would just tell me. But he ended up asking me why I hadn't been interested in his work. Ever since then I've tried to make a point to ask him about what's going on at work - and not just a "How was your day?" but ask him about specific situations and problems. Even if I'm not interested, I become interested from hearing more and more about it. 

Sometimes when Jordan gets home he doesn't want to talk about work immediately. Other times he does. I just have to read the situation and be there for him if he wants to talk and help him relax if he doesn't. 

Respecting his work also means that I encourage him in his job and not put him down. Whether he's at the bottom of the totem pole or sitting on the top, I need to support him regardless. I can also encourage him to work for the glory of the Lord, talking about how he can witness to others or stand firm in what God's Word says through difficult issues. It can be really tough! I need to be that helpmate for him to love him and support him even when no one else does. Easier said than done, of course, but possible through God's grace!

And if Jordan didn't have a job? I would still need to be encouraging and supportive. Helping him in any way I can and loving him all the while. Giving him the utmost respect whether I think (or the world thinks) he deserves it or not. I vowed to be that helper for him through thick and thin! 



See you tomorrow for Day 5 - Respecting my Husband: His Family.

Ashley

12 comments:

  1. When we were first together, I was (actually, still am) really squeamish about hearing about medical stuff, so I had to be very intentional about showing interest in Angel's work (nursing) without feeling like I wanted to cover my ears and run away. :P I've graduatlly gotten more used to hearing his work stories but a dinner with him and his coworkers doesn't usually leave me with much appetite!

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    1. I'd sooo be the same way - I get queasy so easily. That's awesome that you try to listen as best as you can without running! Haha.

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  2. This is so right on, I love it. My hubby and I are totally different, and when he talks about work I feel so inept in supporting him. This message gives me hope that I can still support and encourage him as the provider, even though I do not fully grasp the complexities of his work.

    Loving this series girl! Xo

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    1. I'm so glad you can relate! It's good to know I'm not alone. :)

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  3. Yes! Telling your Dad how much I appreciate his working hard for us will never get old. He needs to hear my words of gratitude.

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    1. And it's awesome that your children have heard it, too. :)

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  4. Love, love this topic! It's so important and I think it's vital that we (wives) pay attention to all of the specific ways we can respect our husbands on a daily (& moment by moment basis)! Excited to follow along for the rest of 31 Days... And after :)

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    1. I'm so glad you like it! I need to hear it constantly, that's for sure.

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  5. I'm so glad to have read this; I definitely needed a reminder! My husband works in I.T., and I'm pretty good at asking how his day was, and caring about the social aspects of his job, but I'm pretty much the worst at listening to the specifics. I'll sit there and go, "mhmm...mhmm", while actually zoning out and thinking about a million other things. Thank you for reminding me to take an interest in what he does! :-)

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    1. Haha, my mind can definitely drift in the same way. I'm glad you can relate!

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  6. This is so good-there are things I dont understand about my husband's work either-but this is reassuring that I CAN encourage him and support him although I dont always "get it". I've also learned about being careful to be content with what we have (Phil 4:11)-so he doesnt feel like how he provides is not enough for me and our family. This has been an eye opener!!

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  7. I realize it's a year old but the 31 day challenge caught my eye when I was looking for a devotional. I'm recently married and striving each day to be a more godly and supportive wife and Christian. This definitely hit home! God bless!

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